ok hope this message makes sense it just came to me
me: "Why me?"
Spirit: "Why not You?"
me: explains all negative qualities about myself
Spirit: "Ok that is only part of You. You also have positive qualities, which You already know (Spirit reminds You of them if needed)"
Spirit : "When you put both those perceived negative and actual positive qualities together it is You. And that is the Answer to Your ? of: "Why Me ?"